I heard a quote the other day that really challenged the way I think about my marriage: “We are either working into oneness or drifting into isolation.”
Man, is that statement true. The more used we get to one another, the easier it is to drift into our own thing–or to even spend the time we are together staring down to the cellular companion we have engaged with all the day long.
While there is nothing wrong with spending time together in front of a TV or catching up on social media for a little while, Austin and I have decided that one of our goals going into our third year of marriage is to spice our nightlife up a bit.
That can apply to anyone! If you are dating, it is much easier (and more fun) to get to know someone as you’re adventuring together. If you’re engaged, take some time away from the wedding planning and start marriage planning. I have compiled a few date night ideas for the married, the dating, or the single best friends with nothing better to do this Saturday night.
1. Have your friends over for a game night!
From Scattegories to monopoly, games are a fun way to not only spend quality time with your significant other and but love on friends in the warmth of your home. Austin and I are HUGE fans of the game One Night Ultimate Werewolf. If you want to have a double date, give us a call. We are obsessed.
2. Go on an oldies drive.
Go on a drive, and listen to your favorite songs from childhood or your awkward teenage years. Don’t hold back. We all know you had a thing for The Backstreet Boys…
3. Go to a local game.
Whether you live in a town that loves high school football or have your own college baseball team to follow, cheering on your team and eating gross yellow cheese can be a fun bonding experience.
4. Read a book together.
Here are our personal recommendations:
Marriage: You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity by Francis and Lisa Chan
Dating: The Mingling of Souls by Matt and Lauren Chandler
Single and ready to mingle: The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
5. Take a night away.
Take a night to just get away! Go to a bed and breakfast in your city or even go far away. Sometimes just one night without home’s responsibilities to consider can be beautifully rejuvenating.
If you’re dating, you could double date with some like-minded friends. Girls share a room and guys do the same.
6. Get Fancy!
This might be my favorite. Get all dressed up. Put on some smelly stuff. Hit the town. Whether you go cheap and have a
picnic or go all out and eat at the local five star, treat yo self!
7. Have a night hike.
You choose where ya go! Don’t forget your flashlight. Creepy or adventurous? I’ll let you decide.
8. Create a bucket list.
Spend time determining some of your own fun things to do! Make sure you go all out. Some of the things on my bucket list with Austin include publishing a book together and traveling across the world to spread the Gospel. Go big or go home!
9. Bake together!
Who doesn’t love mixing together sweet ingredients, licking the batter, then having a delectable treat throughout the rest of the week? If you’re feeling really crazy you can try to imitate Buddy from Cake Boss and have a cake decorating competition!
10. Go on a bike ride.
Or a run. Or a walk. Whatever will get you up and moving!
11. Try a progressive dinner!
Start somewhere for appetizers, hit up another place for your main course, and finish it off with dessert at your local coffee shop or bakery.
12. Christmas shop online.
It’s never too early! And Amazon makes it easy. From a Starbucks Gift Card to Blanket Scarves that are half the price, you can start and finish your holiday shopping in a matter of minutes and then have it done months early. If your spouse is anything like mine, he will love the fact that he doesn’t have to get out and fight the crowds!
13. Have a photo shoot.
Maybe you’ve got friends in the right places and know someone who can shoot good pictures, but if you’re like most of us, you might have to pay for a photography session. Try hiring a photojournalism student for a discounted price. You could even order a nice Camera to document your own moments from day to day.
14. Love on someone.
We all know someone who is going through something. Take some time to write a note, grab some comfort food, and pay a visit.
Face-to-face communication is something we are appreciating less and less. We are so used to a screen shining in front of our face that we often neglect purposeful conversations with those we love. Take a few hours and ask one another probing questions:
- What has been the best moment of your week so far?
- What has been the worst moment of your week so far?
- If you could eat any meal over again, what would it be and why?
- Did you do the things you wanted to this year?
- How do you want next year to be the same? What about different?
There are so many more, but I will leave it to you to come up with them. Spending time with other people is what The Lord put us on this earth to do. Relaxing in front of the TV is fine every now and again, but making memories is so much more fulfilling.
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