Y’all are so lucky tonight! You get to hear from my best encourager and friend, Taylor Holcombe. Taylor is a single lady living in Kansas City, Missouri. She lives on mission daily to disciple those around her–especially other single girls. After getting out of a long relationship, Taylor has spent the last year and a half drawing close to Jesus as her love. She has such a big heart and wisdom beyond her years. Here is my favorite friend, Taylor.
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First thing’s first: it’s important to establish that singleness has way more to do with our hearts than it does with our relationship statuses.
In Ephesians, Paul used the phrase “singleness of heart” when serving the Lord. Over the last year and a half of my single journey, God has continually shown me that regardless of my relationship status, if I don’t have my heart fixed on Jesus first and foremost, I will never truly be content.
So, my friends. Let’s get practical!
1. Singleness is going to suck if you don’t have direction for your own life.
When I was dating my long term boyfriend, I unintentionally based my life on his plans. So when I was on my own for the first time, I realized I had no idea what I wanted to do. Singleness freed me up to intimately hear the voice of The Lord figure out what he desired for my life!
2. Don’t fake it; we want to be married even if we are single.
It’s totally natural to desire marriage, so don’t beat yourself up or allow others to make you feel guilty that you want a spouse. When God set the curse in Genesis Chapter 3, he told Eve her desire would be for her husband. There it is. Women will long for a husband, and God knows that! The danger is allowing the desire to supersede your desire for Christ. God is a jealous God, and He won’t have any other gods before Him. Period.
3. Date yourself.
This ties in with the first point. Your singleness is the perfect time to really get to know who you are in The Lord and begin to love all the glorious quirks He gave you. This is the time to do what you love! You don’t need a boyfriend to try new things, explore the culture of your city or get dressed up and feel beautiful. Call up your single girls and plan friend dates!
Being content is a concept we will wrestle through as long as we’re attached to our flesh, because guess what. Our flesh will never be satisfied until it is connected deeply to the Holy Spirit.
It will look different depending on the season, but you’ll always be looking to what’s next. The trick is to allow Christ to establish your steps through time with Him in His word. Without a biblical perspective on your circumstances, we’re pretty much doomed to fear, doubt and grow weary regardless of the situation. So keep your eyes on The Word, and your heart fixed on Christ, and He will fulfill the desires of your heart.