Routines. We are obsessed with them. We get into morning routines, work routines, bedtime routines, and even Bible study routines. They are great in some ways because they help make us more productive, and they are detrimental in some ways because they rarely challenge us to step outside of our comfort zone.
In the months leading up to marriage, I never imagined I would grow into monotonous routines with my husband. It was supposed to be a magical, spiritual fairy-tale! But lo and behold, I quickly sunk into new routines. Ones in which I find it way too easy to take my marriage for granted.
Marriage got normal.
Married became a thing I just “am”. It quickly lost its fairy-dust. I have grown used to my life, and when something becomes just “routine” I often lose appreciation for it.
I have also learned that the best way to get out of my routines, is to intentionally go before the Lord, asking him to bless the things I take advantage of. My marriage is the most important earthly relationship of my life. So I created a monthly prayer list: 31 ways to intentionally pray for my husband. I would love to challenge you to pray them with me over the next month, intentionally soaking our minds and hearts in Scriptures that remind us of our spouse’s identity as a child of God.
I pray that bringing our husbands before God would help bring the newness back into our relationships. It can be new and exciting every day–especially when our hearts are fixed on the Giver of this sweet gift.
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1. Pray he would be patient.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12
2. Pray he would remember the Scripture he has laid up in his heart before.
I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. Psalm 119:11
3. Pray he would love well, seeing everyone he passes as an image bearer of God.
Let all that you do be done in love. 1 Corinthians 11:14
4. Pray God would use you to encourage him.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26
5. Pray he would be filled with insurmountable joy in the midst of any uncertainties he would face.
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds… James 1:2
6. Pray their time in Scripture would be rich.
You shall, therefore, lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. Deuteronomy 11:18
7. Pray that everyone he crosses would be met with kindness.
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Colossians 3:2
8. Pray he would focus on God’s goodness and emulate it in his walk.
Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him! Psalm 34:8
9. Pray he would resist the temptation to be boastful in anything.
As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil. James 4:16
10. Pray that God would give him His self-control in the face of sinful temptations.
For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness… 2 Peter 1:5-6
11. Pray he would be gentle despite his frustrations.
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect… 1 Peter 3:15
12. Pray God would grant him genuine humility.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you. 1 Peter 5:6
13. Pray he would be faithful to abide in the Lord’s presence throughout the day.
Whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked. 1 John 2:6
14. Pray he would be focused on doing his work completely for the glory of God.
I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do. And now, Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed. John 17:4-5
15. Pray he would meditate on Scripture in his hardest moment of the day.
This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Joshua 1:8
16. Pray God would guide him through every decision he makes, big or small, throughout his day.
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5
17. Pray that God’s name would be first on his lips in any conversation.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. Romans 1:16
18. Pray that everything he does would lead to a Gospel conversation.
How then will they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard? And how are they to hear without someone preaching? Romans 10:14
19. Pray that he would find bridges to conversations where he can share about God’s work in his life.
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9
20. Pray he is focused on the great commission.
And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20
21. Pray he would be quick to forgive anyone who has wronged him.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
22. Pray he would take responsibility for everything God calls him to.
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” Matthew 16:24
23. Pray that he would dwell on God’s forgiveness of him, remembering not to remain on the guilt sin brings to his life.
For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1
24. Pray he would let go of any past hurt and forgive as the Father has forgiven him.
Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. Proverbs 10:12
25. Pray he would be fixated on sharing about Jesus’s forgiveness with everyone he meets.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. 1 John 1:9-10
26. Pray he would not be envious of anyone or anything God has not given to him.
So put away all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander. 1 Peter 2:1
27. Pray God would use him to spur you on spiritually.
But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. Hebrews 3:13
28. Pray he would help you cling to the Lord.
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
29. Pray his identity would not be wrapped in his job but in his role as a child of God.
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Ephesians 2:20
30. Pray God would teach him to love you like Christ loved the church, giving completely of himself.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… Ephesians 5:25
31. Pray he would have peace throughout his anxieties.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
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